What's good blog world? I've been seeing a lot of Facebook statuses lately that have me not only shaking my head but worried as well. It seems like every third status seems to read, "MAN I SWEAR 99% OF DUDES AIN'T THIS" or "LOW KEY....97% OF FEMALES AIN'T WORTH THAT". This bothers me because not only does it show that people are losing faith in the world around them but it also shows that this trend has a great chance to continue as well. My FaceBook status concerning this topic read, "low key...I'm tired of seeing stats saying that 99% of dudes aint this...and 97% of females aint that.....as long as you're thinking that way...you'll never meet that one percent or three percent....it's a big world out here...don't let a few bad apples prevent you from enjoying the feast the world offers," and not only do I preach it but I try to live it as well...
Whether it is in a relationship or in our friendships or even our workplace/scholarly atmospheres, we've all had experiences with other human beings that we'd rather forget. These experiences will remain with us for the rest of our lives but it is up to us as individuals to treat them as learning experiences rather than yearning to simply forget the experience. Each moment that we face in the world provides us with a chance to improve ourselves and the world around us, so why do we allow one negative experience to restrict us from living our lives to the fullest. Heartbreak, disdain, mistrust and disloyalty should be viewed as momentary lapses in our beautiful world rather than being the exception...
This is not to imply that we should go into every situation with our nose wide open and thus open to any sort of treatment. Enter each situation expecting the best, while anticipating the worst; we all struggle at times with doing the inverse. Once you begin to anticipate that a situation will be reminiscent of a previous bad experience, you are laying the foundation for a hurtful self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that every man is a dog, or that every woman is a skeeze, you will end up subconsciously creating the atmosphere for the creation of a dog or a skeeze. Give each person a fresh start because that is what you want when you enter in a new situation. Allow a person to lose your trust rather than leaving your trust locked up in a safe. As you hold on tighter and tighter to your trust, you'll be stuck with momentary happiness instead of lifelong happiness that can only be achieved through a willingness to believe and to fight. You'll never reach your highest heights if you are scared of falling each time...
Application of this idea goes beyond relationships...Stop believing that you cannot pass a class, simply because several people attested that they could not possibly manufacture a good grade. You are your own individual and thus have your own destiny to fulfill. Listen to the warning notifications of those around you and use them as guidance points but do not let them be the only life manual that you read. As long as you have breath in your body and a new opportunity/challenge to conquer, believe in your abilities and know that nothing but the best is meant for you...
God Bless....PromoDave Signing Out...
Monday, August 31, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Accepting Responsibility
What's going on blog world? This is the fifth and final entry in my recent inspiration series and hopefully this one does not disappoint. This came from my last point that we all must accept responsibility. This goes more then just simply saying it, you must accept the benefits that comes with it as well as the perhaps negative consequences that come with it as well. With great power comes great responsibility and some don't even see how much they are truly responsible for on a day to day basis. As we are all growing older, we can no longer just let our age represent our growth and development; our actions must reflect it as well...
If you are only bringing your plate to the table, nobody will ever want to eat with you.- PromoDave
I said that while discussing how some people we know are and are not growing up with some of my brothers and knew that I needed to note that for my next blog. If you aren't accepting responsibility for your own life and always depending on others to provide for you, people will eventually tire of that and remove you from their lives. As human beings, it is inevitable that one day we will all need help but you can't ALWAYS need help; sometimes you have to struggle and fight through things and just believe throughout the entire situation that you will come out victorious. As Lupe Fiasco said, struggle is just another sign that God loves you, because on the low, struggle makes you humble. There is no greater feeling than knowing that you accomplished something through your own efforts; sometimes you just have to encourage yourself through your test and know that God isn't putting more on you then you have to the ability to handle...
The entire idea of responsibility became more apparent to me following my return to my campus last week. For the returning college students, I'm hoping that we've learned from our mistakes of previous years and are now, if we haven't already, beginning to assume control over our lives and guiding them in a positive direction. For the new college students, I want you all to know that this is the time to make your mark on your life, not just party, party, party and get wasted. Enjoy this time indeed, but know that you and no one else is responsible for your success and that you will never get this time back so why waste it? None of us know when we are leaving this earth, so let us all attempt to be remembered as persons attempting to positively change the world whether it is in a major manner or a small manner because all change can help instead of being remembered as just being wastes of space...
Instead of being victims of our circumstances, we should all strive to be victors of our surroundings. If you want to get out of that neighborhood, or come back and change it for the better, or be the next doctor, lawyer, custodian, nurse, cook, or all star athlete, take the necessary steps towards it and throw caution to the wind. It feels much better to know that you tried to achieve something, fail at it, and achieve something else, rather than never trying at all. The responsibility is yours though...
God Bless....PromoDave Signing Out....
The entire idea of responsibility became more apparent to me following my return to my campus last week. For the returning college students, I'm hoping that we've learned from our mistakes of previous years and are now, if we haven't already, beginning to assume control over our lives and guiding them in a positive direction. For the new college students, I want you all to know that this is the time to make your mark on your life, not just party, party, party and get wasted. Enjoy this time indeed, but know that you and no one else is responsible for your success and that you will never get this time back so why waste it? None of us know when we are leaving this earth, so let us all attempt to be remembered as persons attempting to positively change the world whether it is in a major manner or a small manner because all change can help instead of being remembered as just being wastes of space...
Instead of being victims of our circumstances, we should all strive to be victors of our surroundings. If you want to get out of that neighborhood, or come back and change it for the better, or be the next doctor, lawyer, custodian, nurse, cook, or all star athlete, take the necessary steps towards it and throw caution to the wind. It feels much better to know that you tried to achieve something, fail at it, and achieve something else, rather than never trying at all. The responsibility is yours though...
God Bless....PromoDave Signing Out....
Monday, August 10, 2009
Great Goals = Lovely Life
What's going on blog word? This is the fourth out of five entries in the series I'm working on and this one builds off of my fourth inspirational point, "Set a goal for yourself." This point was developed when I heard someone say that they don't set goals for themselves so they won't fail. EPIC FAIL! That has to be some of the worst logic I've ever heard and it truly disheartens me because I bet that this person passes on some of that foolishness to those around them so it becomes a never ending cycle. Back to the topic at hand, I strongly support the whole idea of setting goals while fighting failure.
If you truly believe that not setting a goal will prevent failure, you failed at that goal. We are all human beings and thus will fail at sometime in our life, some more than others, but it is how we combat those failures that dictates our level of success. If you don't anticipate failure, you should anticipate to fail indeed because you have not thoroughly planned out your actions. The success of Plan A feels great, but having Plan B and C does nothing but enhance your efforts. At this point, we have to move past the childish dreams of being doctors, basketball players and lawyers and even janitors (You may laugh at janitors but we need all professions to keep this world moving smoothly. I surely respect all of those in the workforce). By this, I mean that we no longer can simply dream of it; we have to begin to set our dream as our goal and plan on how we want to achieve it....
These high aspirations do not simply fall into our laps but we have to position ourselves to catch them. Dream big but plan on working big as well. Set a goal that is worth fighting for and worth living/dying for rather then what pays the most because I guarantee your personal happiness is not fully influenced by your monetary value. Despite what outward facades may say, money cannot buy happiness; it can buy lust but never love. Goals help with this process because who does not want to succeed at all they do? If you've set a goal, there is nothing greater then achieving it. Even if you don't grasp the initial goal, your dedication will lead to whatever is meant for your life, and at least this way you know that you've lead a life dedicated to your personal happiness and possibly the happiness of those around you...
Fate should be the only thing that perhaps changes your resolve towards achieving your goals; not people that don't believe you can achieve it, finances, circumstances, neighborhood, family, education or your own negative thoughts. Believe that the major things in this world are yours to grab, develop a plan to achieve this, and make that goal your reality...
God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...
If you truly believe that not setting a goal will prevent failure, you failed at that goal. We are all human beings and thus will fail at sometime in our life, some more than others, but it is how we combat those failures that dictates our level of success. If you don't anticipate failure, you should anticipate to fail indeed because you have not thoroughly planned out your actions. The success of Plan A feels great, but having Plan B and C does nothing but enhance your efforts. At this point, we have to move past the childish dreams of being doctors, basketball players and lawyers and even janitors (You may laugh at janitors but we need all professions to keep this world moving smoothly. I surely respect all of those in the workforce). By this, I mean that we no longer can simply dream of it; we have to begin to set our dream as our goal and plan on how we want to achieve it....
These high aspirations do not simply fall into our laps but we have to position ourselves to catch them. Dream big but plan on working big as well. Set a goal that is worth fighting for and worth living/dying for rather then what pays the most because I guarantee your personal happiness is not fully influenced by your monetary value. Despite what outward facades may say, money cannot buy happiness; it can buy lust but never love. Goals help with this process because who does not want to succeed at all they do? If you've set a goal, there is nothing greater then achieving it. Even if you don't grasp the initial goal, your dedication will lead to whatever is meant for your life, and at least this way you know that you've lead a life dedicated to your personal happiness and possibly the happiness of those around you...
Fate should be the only thing that perhaps changes your resolve towards achieving your goals; not people that don't believe you can achieve it, finances, circumstances, neighborhood, family, education or your own negative thoughts. Believe that the major things in this world are yours to grab, develop a plan to achieve this, and make that goal your reality...
God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
No More Foolishness
What's good blog world? Part 3 of this series covers analyzing forces in our life that do not stimulate growth, but even go as far to repress as. As I previously noted, I suggest that we all, "Eliminate repressive forces in our lives." While we normally view these forces as simply being used for entertainment purposes, it is very easy to fall in the trap of becoming what is around you...
By that, I mean, if we have people that don't have our best interests at heart around us because we feel that we owe them something or that it is not a major thing, we end up not having our best interests at heart. If you are in school and attempting to gain a degree, friends that don't have inspiring words for such because they lack faith in you or in their own personal abilities, need to be eliminated. This proves to be difficult at times because normally these are lifelong friends, but if that person cannot see that you are in need of support and cannot provide for you, they're not worthy of your acquaintance. Period. No questions asked. You want to surround yourself with like minded individuals because each new movement provides us with an opportunity to enhance our standing in this world, so why waste any of these precious moments?..
This goes further then simply removing yourself from these individuals. It would be most beneficial to eliminate any and all repressive ideas from your life. Listen to more positive music, watch more positive programming, speak more positively. Now I'm not saying stop listening to Wayne, Gucci, Soulja Boy, and OJ but don't let that be all that you listen to. Expand your horizons. Open yourself to something new because I guarantee the world is bigger then you will ever know. Don't allow yourself to be dictated by your surroundings but rather to be defined by your actions. If you do something for 21 straight days, it becomes a habit so what are you doing??....
Stop putting all of your information on Facebook and then getting mad when everyone knows what is going on your life. Stop using Facebook to simply snoop in other people's lives. Stop answering people's calls or texts that you know stress you out. Stop being with that man or woman because they tell you you can't do any better. Stop believing that. Stop settling for less. Stop making excuses. Stop wasting your own time. Stop living vicariously through others. Stop wondering when will change happen and make it happen. Stop worrying about insignificant matters. Stop surrendering without a fight. Stop speaking negativity in your life. Stop allowing addictions to dictate who you are. Stop only seeing the negative in people. Stop speaking negativity into the lives of others because please believe that it will manifest itself in your life in one form or another. Stop letting things or people decide what is best for you. Stop doubting yourself...
Start using Facebook as a way of networking. Start keeping friends that motivate you and that you can motivate. Start accepting change and growing from it. Start believing that you are destined for greatness. Start knowing that what you are doing is worthwhile. Start instilling good virtues in the next generation. Start seeking advice from the past generation. Start believing that we are all equal in this world. Start believing that the sky truly is the limit. Start thanking God for everything done and to come. Start knowing that this is not the end of the road but rather the beginning of your next triumph. Start giving people the benefit of the doubt. Start seeing the good in people. Start letting people see the good in you rather then simply saying it's there. Start laughing and smiling more. Start changing the world for the better. Start believing in the goodness of the world and of people. Start believing in yourself....
God Bless....PromoDave Signing Out....
By that, I mean, if we have people that don't have our best interests at heart around us because we feel that we owe them something or that it is not a major thing, we end up not having our best interests at heart. If you are in school and attempting to gain a degree, friends that don't have inspiring words for such because they lack faith in you or in their own personal abilities, need to be eliminated. This proves to be difficult at times because normally these are lifelong friends, but if that person cannot see that you are in need of support and cannot provide for you, they're not worthy of your acquaintance. Period. No questions asked. You want to surround yourself with like minded individuals because each new movement provides us with an opportunity to enhance our standing in this world, so why waste any of these precious moments?..
This goes further then simply removing yourself from these individuals. It would be most beneficial to eliminate any and all repressive ideas from your life. Listen to more positive music, watch more positive programming, speak more positively. Now I'm not saying stop listening to Wayne, Gucci, Soulja Boy, and OJ but don't let that be all that you listen to. Expand your horizons. Open yourself to something new because I guarantee the world is bigger then you will ever know. Don't allow yourself to be dictated by your surroundings but rather to be defined by your actions. If you do something for 21 straight days, it becomes a habit so what are you doing??....
Stop putting all of your information on Facebook and then getting mad when everyone knows what is going on your life. Stop using Facebook to simply snoop in other people's lives. Stop answering people's calls or texts that you know stress you out. Stop being with that man or woman because they tell you you can't do any better. Stop believing that. Stop settling for less. Stop making excuses. Stop wasting your own time. Stop living vicariously through others. Stop wondering when will change happen and make it happen. Stop worrying about insignificant matters. Stop surrendering without a fight. Stop speaking negativity in your life. Stop allowing addictions to dictate who you are. Stop only seeing the negative in people. Stop speaking negativity into the lives of others because please believe that it will manifest itself in your life in one form or another. Stop letting things or people decide what is best for you. Stop doubting yourself...
Start using Facebook as a way of networking. Start keeping friends that motivate you and that you can motivate. Start accepting change and growing from it. Start believing that you are destined for greatness. Start knowing that what you are doing is worthwhile. Start instilling good virtues in the next generation. Start seeking advice from the past generation. Start believing that we are all equal in this world. Start believing that the sky truly is the limit. Start thanking God for everything done and to come. Start knowing that this is not the end of the road but rather the beginning of your next triumph. Start giving people the benefit of the doubt. Start seeing the good in people. Start letting people see the good in you rather then simply saying it's there. Start laughing and smiling more. Start changing the world for the better. Start believing in the goodness of the world and of people. Start believing in yourself....
God Bless....PromoDave Signing Out....
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Gas Yourself Up
What's going on blog world? This is part 2 of a 5 part series that I'm working on. I noted 5 positive actions that can possibly change your entire life and I'm addressing the second one with this post; "2. Take time to pat yourself on the back." Too often we forget that at the end of the day, we are the only one that has to deal with ourselves so why make that relationship anything but a positive, budding, inspirational one?...
I recently told a close friend that if you don't believe in yourself, it does not matter if the whole world is on your side, you will still fail. The facade will always fail. You must be willing to make your inside match your outside or perhaps even exceed it, but never shadow it. Saying that, even if you are not the most attractive person by the dictation of society, you still have to believe in yourself because self confidence is easily the most appealing trait that a person could have. Many struggle with balancing self confidence and being cocky. The difference between the two is self confidence simply recognizes the fact that you are a beautifully created creature and equal to any other person in this world, and cockiness involves placing yourself other individuals. We are all placed on this world to interact with each other and thus no matter what our place in society may lead us to falsely believe, we all must accommodate for those that inhabit this world with us.
While this does require a great amount of selfLESSness, I still recommend that we all take time to be selfish at times. This all should remain as a mental state and used to motivate only...
You have to pat yourself on the back from time to time. While we always are looking towards the future and what we want to accomplish, your future goals cannot diminish your current accomplishments because too often, we seek things we don't have yet and lose appreciation for what is in front of us. Current accomplishments are the basis for future achievements, instead of two different occurrences. Take time to reflect on what you have done, use that to influence what you will do, all that while making sure you are at your best for what you need to be doing. Stop looking at other people's lives for inspiration, motivation and lessons because I guarantee that you have achieved a lot more then you give yourself credit for. Just because we all have achieved different levels of success, stop using others to measure yourself, and instead just believe that you are where you are supposed to be in life and that you will end up where you are supposed to be consequently...
As always hope that this helps, because nothing disheartens me more then to see a person that has lost faith in him or herself. Just as we look at celebrities, athletes, movie stars, musicians and politicians and believe that they will not disappoint us and put the best product out forth and place them on such a high pedestal, we must place ourselves on the same pedestal. We have to believe that we can graduate from college, start our own businesses, achieve our childhood stardom dreams in music, sports, the arts, or the sciences and raise a family that will help positively mold the future. We are all human beings and thus all have the opportunity to max out our potential. It all starts with a little belief...IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, WHAT IS THE POINT OF EVEN TRYING??
God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...
I recently told a close friend that if you don't believe in yourself, it does not matter if the whole world is on your side, you will still fail. The facade will always fail. You must be willing to make your inside match your outside or perhaps even exceed it, but never shadow it. Saying that, even if you are not the most attractive person by the dictation of society, you still have to believe in yourself because self confidence is easily the most appealing trait that a person could have. Many struggle with balancing self confidence and being cocky. The difference between the two is self confidence simply recognizes the fact that you are a beautifully created creature and equal to any other person in this world, and cockiness involves placing yourself other individuals. We are all placed on this world to interact with each other and thus no matter what our place in society may lead us to falsely believe, we all must accommodate for those that inhabit this world with us.
While this does require a great amount of selfLESSness, I still recommend that we all take time to be selfish at times. This all should remain as a mental state and used to motivate only...
You have to pat yourself on the back from time to time. While we always are looking towards the future and what we want to accomplish, your future goals cannot diminish your current accomplishments because too often, we seek things we don't have yet and lose appreciation for what is in front of us. Current accomplishments are the basis for future achievements, instead of two different occurrences. Take time to reflect on what you have done, use that to influence what you will do, all that while making sure you are at your best for what you need to be doing. Stop looking at other people's lives for inspiration, motivation and lessons because I guarantee that you have achieved a lot more then you give yourself credit for. Just because we all have achieved different levels of success, stop using others to measure yourself, and instead just believe that you are where you are supposed to be in life and that you will end up where you are supposed to be consequently...
As always hope that this helps, because nothing disheartens me more then to see a person that has lost faith in him or herself. Just as we look at celebrities, athletes, movie stars, musicians and politicians and believe that they will not disappoint us and put the best product out forth and place them on such a high pedestal, we must place ourselves on the same pedestal. We have to believe that we can graduate from college, start our own businesses, achieve our childhood stardom dreams in music, sports, the arts, or the sciences and raise a family that will help positively mold the future. We are all human beings and thus all have the opportunity to max out our potential. It all starts with a little belief...IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, WHAT IS THE POINT OF EVEN TRYING??
God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...
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