Weathering The Storm

What's good blog world? Despite all of my best efforts, I can honestly say that this has perhaps been my worst semester in a while and as I'm sitting here, I am truly about to take it with a grain of salt and view it as my best learning experience. For those going through similar issues, I want to offer my own analysis that has guided me through these stressful times...

As we are all getting older, we seem to want to compare what we accomplish with what we did this year and though this is the easiest method of analysis, we need to look at the race we are running as a whole instead of a lot of different components. Though there are going to be highs and lows that we face as we grow, we must realize that we are working towards ourselves the best current representation of ourselves. If we are not working towards an ultimate end of being the best we can in each activity we do, that is the best sign that we need not be doing whatever we are doing. Even if you are failing at a particular action, failure is the best teacher. Sometimes it takes failing a class, failing in a relationship, or failing at a job to allow us to see what we need to do in life. Failure should never instill fear, but rather instill knowledge, experience, wisdom, and guidance. The only fear that we should have is not trying, because until you put your best foot forward, you never know what you can achieve....

While we are not afraid of failure or of trying, change must be added to that list as well, as it it falls into the same group as not trying. While we never know the day or time that we will lead this Earth, that should not influence whether or not we want to change or try something new. As long as you have breath in your lungs, and the ability to do it, change should be always on your path because a life that lacks change is a life that lacks fulfillment. As I've previously said, at the end of your lifetime, you would rather be known as a person in the process of change, instead of being stagnant and satisfied. There is always more to accomplish and if you never finish the process of changing to what you wanted to achieve, the steps within the process should be enough to motivate yourself to continue. Not everyone is meant to be a CEO or the President, but everyone is meant to be happy in life; work towards finding your role in this role and mastering it. Just because you aren't meant to be #1 in the field that everyone is shooting for, does not mean that your stats do not count. Don't compare yourself to what others are achieving, instead compare yourself to who you used to be, who you currently are, and to who you are going to be....

As cliche as it is, it is still quite true that sunshine wouldn't feel as good as it does without rain, and I think when it is flooding is when we need to remind ourselves this the much, as much as we need to pray when things go bad just as much as we need to when things are great. When situations appear to be unconquerable and overwhelming, remember that you have made it this far and reflect on the strength that you've used to make it here and consider ways to use it to master this situation. I guarantee that God doesn't put us in situations that we don't have the strength to get past. We just must combine His strength with our own efforts because faith without works is dead. Know that whatever you are going through right now, you are growing and if you don't believe so, look at the old you and the current you, and move forward accordingly...

Heaven never helps the man who will not act.
Sophocles

God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...

Being A Man

What's going on blog world? I really put out a strong blog, if I may so myself, about the condition of women and how to improve it so I know I have to come just as hard for my brothers. We are really being challenged nowadays to project a certain image of manhood but with so many of us not being properly taught how to "be a man" in this society, how is it possible? I mean, how can we meet expectations that we are never taught exist? I think that if we sit back and analyze the world that is around it and how we effectively can fit into the world, those expectations will become much more apparent...

To begin, there is the issue of how "hard" a man should act when he is around females and around his boys. Damn that. With each situation we face, we should attempt to be as respectful of those around us as possible in order to keep the equilibrium needed for peace in this world. While naturally, some men may be more outspoken or reserved than others, there is within all of us a certain level of dignity that we can hold on to; if there wasn't, we would not have been made in the image of God. Though many may try to argue that fact that some men are most likely to live these dignified and respectful lives because of racial, social, and economic backgrounds, any true MAN or young MAN has the ability to reach the stars. Extending our arms to the heavens though should not be at the sacrifice of our fellow human beings. More importantly, that extension of our arms should not harm others, only enhance our standing and the standing of those around them....

Though many believe that it is an inherent quality of men to desire to seek out their path in this world on their own, it is a deep lie indeed that no man does not seek out the approval of those around them. This yearning for acceptance can be helpful but when it grows to too high of a level, it can nearly break a man down. If your actions are geared towards your advancement and the advancement of your inner circle, then they are positive and should be enhanced to the fullest degree. When the balance shifts too much to either side, that is where problems have the highest probability of occurring. If you aim towards only achieving things in this life for yourself, you are nearly confining yourself to a life of momentary, monetary, and materialistic happiness with no such legacy or love to hold on to. If you aim towards only achieving things for others, that is when you begin to lose yourself in this world. Both of these type of failed aims can be seen in a lot of the main issues that we are currently facing.

It is time for us as men to stop counting how many chicks we run through and start counting how many lives we positively touch. What do you want to be able to tell your children at the end of the day? How to effectively change the world or how to effectively add drama to your life and ruin the lives of plenty of women. The more women that we lay with, the more our heart is being divided whether we know it or not. We attempt to say that we are heartless beings but it's impossible to not seek out the love of another human being or at least the companionship. As you count the number of women you lay with, think about how it would feel to have someone just count your sister, mother, niece, aunt or best friend as just another skeeze they squeezed. Not only does the objectification of women need to cease, but the mistreatment of women physically and emotionally...

I found it quite wild that a lot of people want to attack Rihanna for speaking out against Chris Brown. While it is unfair that she is just now coming out about the situation, she still has some ground to stand on no matter what. I don't care if she burned down Chris Brown's house with his favorite dog in there, as a man, he should have never placed his hands on her. Just the same as she is abusing the media coverage by attempting to replay the situation, he is as well by constantly appearing in interviews concerning it. He should attempt to keep his growth as a man private because that's what a man does; once you start seeking out approval for all of your actions, you are slowly but surely selling your actions. Further then not physically attacking women, we must be more respectful of their needs as women on a mental love...

The world is filled with angry children that didn't have fathers growing up and had to depend on single mothers to play both roles. Laying with a woman and abandoning her as soon as she gets pregnant is the weakest thing a man can ever do in this world. If you are not willing to spend time in the home, stop trying to make houses. Not only does leaving the woman abandoned cause the household structure to suffer but it simply creates a space for negative aspects to grow and spread. Create examples for those around you to want to mimic that can change the world for all of us, rather than destroy it from the inside out....

We have to do better as men and aspiring young men. Know that with a mind and a heart to be better, we can achieve all that we desire. Let's stop fulfilling the stereotypes and rebuilding our relationships with God, our family, and our women. We all have the capability to be great, we just have to stop stopping ourselves from achieving greatness by believing that we cannot do it. As long as we work diligently in whatever area of life that is meant for us, remain respectful, treat all as if they are our family, and simply seek out to master at least one job, we as men can lead to every epidemic in the world being changed. Let's stop teaching our sons, little brothers, and nephews and any men that we encounter that violence and sexism are all that we can master and show them that we can guide, love, and lead this world to greatness. Believe in your ability and let no one stir you away...

God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...