Worry About The Wrong Thing

“Worry is an addiction that interferes with compassion.”

Wats goodie? Came across this quote in my class on Tuesday and it’s been sitting with me ever since. In a life filled with mastering activities and attempting to make a name with one’s self, worrying can truly weigh a person down perhaps even more than the difficulty of the task at hand. We have to be able to separate what we need to do from the pressure of accomplishing the task. The end result of a task influences our opinion of a situation, but never forget about the path that you had to travel to get there...

There are a few steps of struggle that need to be kept in perspective in order to more at peace with one's own worries and progression. Day to day battles, relationships and future goals. In all of those aspects, worry and concern can lead to one's best effort not being put forth and that's perhaps all that we need to worry about. Stop worrying about your problems in advance and start ordering up some confidence for the present...

With each day that we are blessed to experience, an opportunity for improvement occurs. Worrying about Friday on Monday doesn't help you get to Friday any faster or have the best Monday that you can. Do what you can each to prepare for a future task and I guarantee you will be more ready than you can ever expect. Don't allow worry to enter into your thought process because you are creating a self fulfilling prophecy of failure. If you lack inner strength, how can you seek support from other areas. Faith and belief in yourself is easily the best investment that you can make in this world...

Furthermore, that faith and belief can extend into relationships because if you don't love who you are and what you stand for, who is really going to want to invest their time and effort into you. Stop worrying about the weight of past relationships and stop focusing so much on getting into a relationship and shift that focus into being ready for one. There is a great difference between seeking love and being ready to love. Work on your heart and inner being and that will shine through as the most attractive aspect to a potential suitor...

If love never occurs in your life with a suitor, the world has not ended if you still live towards developing your own identity. You cannot mold yourself into a certain image that you want to master in 10 years and will drive yourself crazy trying to do such. Instead focus on what you are doing now and making sure that your personal happiness meter for the present is full to the brim. Getting yourself to a certain level in life through stress and worry cheapens the value of the experience because your time being satisfied with the world is lessened. Work at being happy with what you are doing and I guarantee you will be more satisfied with your life as a whole, rather than settling for momentary happiness. In a world full of opportunity and experience, selling yourself short by not focusing on your own personal happiness is the worst thing you can do...

Take joy in the small things in life, stop worrying about the wrong things in life...and I guarantee you, you'll be able to smile a little harder and make it through another day...

God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...1 Love

"You can't change yesterday...but you can ruin today...by worrying about tomorrow" -PromoDave

Comparative Counseling

Wats goodie blog world? Following writing my last blog, I had a discussion with a friend about life in general, focusing on our last relationships and my previous blog and the connection to all of it. She made an interesting statement that sparked this entry: "I have the hardest time understanding men, so I'm just going to give up for a while." My response was that she doesn't need to understand men, but just find a MAN to understand and I think that can be our best bet for being successful not only in our relationships but our general life interactions...

Too often we get caught up in wanting to obtain the prize spouse that many have sought after that we create a hostile environment for love to progress. Surrendering yourself early for someone creates a balance of power that may never be equated in a relationship...though receiving their attention instantly gratifies us and them as well, there will always be a discrepancy between what you give to the relationship and what they take from it. Though relationships do need one person to make that initial move to spark it, sacrificing personal identity should never occur...You are attempting to enter into a union, not a sponsorship...

Where one can make sure that they are not surrendering their identity in a relationship comes with having a sense of personal respect and understanding. If you do not know who you are, what you want out of life, and what you stand for, who will be able to solve the rubix cube of your mind. You are removing key pieces from the relationship puzzle by not at least having a concept of those three areas. As young adults, we of course still have growing to do and our potential spouses can help with such but they cannot simply be brought in to rescue us. If you are not apart of bettering yourself, who in the long run will want to be?...

Returning to my friend's original concern of "not understanding men", understanding the general population aids in capturing a person's attention, but attention is only maintained through dedication to detail. Once you are with someone or seeking someone, their qualities can be compared to the whole of the gender only to assist them in bettering themselves, but still must be taken into consideration with the individual's background. Expecting too much of a person can create an irreconcilable bond. You can't expect your spouse to have the same amount of money as another individual, because money doesn't last forever. You can't expect a person to shower you with affection like another couple does for one another, because each relationship is different. You can't expect a person to completely change for you, because you won't or shouldn't make those same sacrifices. Realistically, you should seek from a relationship, or on a lower level a friendship, some basic elements: Love, dedication, understanding, some time commitment, and a willing to compromise. Those are key to human interactions fostering positive love and any other elements are simply to appeal to the materialistic standards of society...

Understand that God has a greater plan for everything that you do in life and take each day/opportunity as a chance to advance your personal growth and know that through every dark event is a chance for you to shine again. For it is only in our darkest, that we can truly shine...

God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...1 Love

Life Comes Around...

Faith isn't the ability to believe long and far into the misty future.
It's simply taking God at His Word and taking the next step.
- Joni Erickson Tada

Wats goodie people? I always attempt to come back strong after a long hiatus from my writing so I chose whatever has been the strongest element in my life to write about. No matter where we stand in life, focusing on conquering what immediately faces us should always be our primary goal...too often we get caught up looking in the future that we don't give our current situations their proper attention...A failure to prepare represents a desire to be unsuccessful...

This sense of looking ahead can appear in school, relationships, family, work, and life in general as we have become a world that is dependent on not only instant gratification but future security. The only true control that we can assert over the future is creating a good series of events to lead to our future. So many of us get stuck in attempting to make a 5 year plan of getting married, having kids, making $1 million, and having the greatest set of best friends that it makes every day hard to live. When you put that much restriction on your life and try to guide everything towards what you think your future will be, you block yourself from what can be truly meant for you. Stop focusing on "what will be" and work on making "what is" greater...

Setting future goals is helpful indeed, no doubt because you have to have some idea about what you want to do or self motivation may never occur, but never allow something that isn't tangible take control over your life. Just because it doesn't look like you’re on the right path, who is to say what is really that right path for you. As long as you are living and breathing and making efforts to improve daily, your path is as right as it can be. The future should serve as a sense of hope rather than a completely determining factor. Use the future to know that you'll always have an opportunity to do better but remember that you can only make efforts to be better in your immediate present...

Whenever life becomes too much to deal with, step back…take a deep breath...and start taking pleasure in the simplicity of life. As a great friend told me, simple = amazing...the simple elements of life can be a laugh shared with a friend, a good television show, a workout, just whatever takes minimal effort to make YOU happy. Take a moment to remind yourself that there are simple things in life worth living for and that can help you in getting in order the elements of your life that have made it hard to live. Overcoming adversity is based in asserting individual control and taking risks and chances....Hope this helps get at least one person through something because it's surely just helped me...

God Bless...PromoDave Signing Out...